Let’s Talk About Your Libido

Sex drive MIA? Take a seat. Maybe you’re newly postpartum, totally touched out. Or you're a decade into a long-term relationship, feeling more “meh” than magnetic. Or you're just plain exhausted—juggling work, stress, and sleep deprivation—wondering if your spark will ever come back.

Spoiler alert: That spark isn’t gone, it’s simply signaling an imbalance.

Female desire is fluid. Some seasons of life (and days of the month!) feel more sensual and alive. Others? Not as much. That’s totally normal. But if you're ready to feel more in tune with your body, there are ways to gently support your sex drive. And it starts with your hormones. 

The Libido-Hormone Connection

Your libido is more than just a “mood.” In fact, it’s deeply tied to your hormones. When estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone are in sync, everything feels smoother: more energy, better moods, and yes, more desire. But if your hormones are out of balance (due to stress, irregular periods, or not eating enough), your sex drive takes a hit. Ultimately, your hormones don’t just influence your reproductive system—they affect your brain chemistry, circulation, and even how connected you feel to your partner.

In other words, your body needs to feel safe, nourished, and supported for your libido to thrive.

Your Libido Has a Cycle, Too

Just like your energy, hunger, and mood shift throughout the month, your libido follows a natural rhythm as well! And as mentioned, it’s strongly influenced by hormonal shifts.

Let’s break it down:

🩸 Menstrual Phase (Days 1–5)
This is when you're on your period, and hormone levels (estrogen and progesterone) are at their lowest. For many, sex is the last thing on the mind—but some people feel more connected to their bodies during this time. If you're craving extra rest and alone time, lean in. That is intimacy, too.

🌱 Follicular Phase (Days 6–14)
As your period ends and estrogen begins to rise, you’ll likely feel more energized, social, and yes—sexier. Estrogen boosts dopamine (your feel-good brain chemical), which can spark desire and confidence. This is a great time to reconnect with your body and explore pleasure in a way that feels fun and low-pressure.

🔥 Ovulation (Around Day 14)
This is your peak fertile window—and your libido often peaks here, too. Thanks to a surge in estrogen and luteinizing hormone (LH)—plus a slight boost in testosterone—you may feel a stronger pull toward intimacy, touch, and connection. This is nature’s way of increasing the chances of reproduction, but whether or not you’re trying to conceive, it’s a powerful time to ride the wave of heightened desire.

🍂 Luteal Phase (Days 15–28)
After ovulation, progesterone rises to prepare for a potential pregnancy. Some people feel more emotionally sensitive, tired, or inward during this time—and sex might feel less appealing. But it doesn’t mean something’s wrong. In fact, this phase is a great time to focus on emotional intimacy, cozy self-care, or even slower, more sensual touch.

Can Seed Cycling Help Libido?

Yes! At beeya, we’ve made it simple. Our blends are pre-ground for better nutrient absorption, organic, and crafted to take the guesswork out of seed cycling. Just one tablespoon a day (added to oatmeal, smoothies, salads—you name it) and you’re on your way to better hormone health.

In fact, we’ve had so many women tell us that our seed cycling blends have played a major role in getting their mojo back. 

But let’s back up for a second.

Your menstrual cycle is driven by a beautiful (but delicate) dance between four key hormones: estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, and luteinizing hormone. When these hormones are out of whack (poor sleep, blood sugar imbalance, coming off hormonal birth control, etc.), your libido tanks. Fortunately, nourishing your body with the right nutrients at the right time can help gently support this hormonal ebb and flow.

Enter: seed cycling.

🌱 In the first half of your cycle (menstrual to ovulation), we use flax and pumpkin seeds to support healthy estrogen levels. Flaxseeds are rich in lignans, plant compounds that help bind excess estrogen and promote hormonal balance. Pumpkin seeds are a great source of zinc, which supports testosterone production (a key hormone for sex drive!).

🌻 In the second half of your cycle (ovulation to menstruation), we use sesame and sunflower seeds. Sesame seeds are another source of lignans, while sunflower seeds are rich in vitamin E and selenium, antioxidants that support progesterone production—necessary for a stable mood, good sleep, and a healthy libido.

The Science Behind the Seeds

• A 2021 study in Nutrients found that dietary intake of zinc and vitamin E was directly linked to better reproductive hormone levels in women.
• Flaxseeds have been shown to help regulate cycles, reduce PMS symptoms, and support estrogen detox via the liver and gut.
• Zinc, in particular, plays a role in the production of both estrogen and testosterone—crucial hormones for sexual desire and arousal.
• Sunflower and sesame seeds help combat inflammation and oxidative stress, both of which can interfere with hormone production and sexual wellness.

How to Ignite Your Sex Drive (Gently)

Reviving your libido doesn’t require a total life overhaul—it starts with small, nourishing habits that bring you back to yourself. Prioritize sleep, eat balanced meals with plenty of healthy fats and protein, and carve out time for things that make you feel good in your body (think: movement, laughter, sunlight, or solo pleasure).

Managing stress is key, too. Whether that’s a daily walk, journaling, or simply saying no more often. And don’t underestimate the power of emotional connection—sharing a moment of vulnerability, a long hug, or uninterrupted conversation can do more for your libido than any supplement ever could. When you give your body and mind what they need, desire doesn’t just return. It starts to flourish.